We haven't been home a full week. I am amazed at how much Nina-Li has adapted to our home and family. I hope to write an update this weekend sometime.
Thanksgiving Silliness:
Daddy is sooooo Talllll!
Thursday, November 25, 2010
Wednesday, November 24, 2010
A Whole New World
Nina-Li has been our daughter and the boys sister for 3 weeks. She's been an American for 1 week. It has become a whole new world for all of us.
There are some things I am learning about sweet little girly girls like Nina-Li:
90% of Barbie time, is all about the hair. Taking the little rubberbands out, brushing, brushing, brushing, maybe getting it wet, and brushing some more.
Playing is a universal language. It doesn't matter to Nina-Li what language you speak, how old you are, or what you are wearing. She is thrilled to meet you and play with you.
Party dresses or tutus should be worn daily. Life is worth celebrating and why not dress-up for the occassion.
Princesses and Strawberry Shortcake have healing power. Cute band-aids make it all better really fast.
Princess costumes can and should be worn to bed. Why make it an issue? Certainly sweet dreams will flutter by through out the night when worn.
Having a friend brings joy.
I am amazed at the progress we have made in a week. Especially considering how things were in China. She holds my hand often and doesn't want me out of sight. Which is completely normal. However in China, could care less where I was or what I was doing. Bill and Nina-Li are growing closer each day. Nina-Li loves riding on her daddy's shoulders. We took a walk today and she was full of giggles, which we hear daily, A LOT!
Everything is new to Nina-Li. Things you wouldn't think of. Like cups with glitter that swirls around and ice cubes. We've gone from warm water to now 2 ice cubes per cup of water. Last evening she was totally fascinated with the printer and copier. We copied numerous coloring pages. I was tempted to show her how to copy her hand, but I thought we'd have a few dozen copies of hands all over the house if I did. One of the most fascinating things to Nina-Li is blue sky. The first night we arrived home it was 11 PM, and she got to bed at 2 AM. She woke up 14 hours later at 6 PM and then went to bed late that evening. When I tucked her in bed (which went flawlessly), she got out a picture of our home and pointed to her window and then to the blue sky. I assumed she wanted to know when she was going to see daylight. I told her tomorrow (mingtian) she would see day. Well, the next day was sufficient, but cloudy. The following day, she came in my room and said "mama, mama, kan, kan". Which is 'mom, look!' It was the blue sky. At least that is what Bill and I have determined. In China we had sunshine everyday, but no blue sky. Too much smog. The smog was thick enough hardly anyone wore sunglasses.
It is fun watching her discover new things each day. From food to toys. She loves shopping and going places. She is content at home but loves to go out.
We are so proud of our boys and how they have handled the entire situation. Their character really shown through, through out the event. Through all the tears in China, they never once complained. Were always willing to lend a hand, and tolerated Bill and I being a little edgy at times. They never questioned Nina-Li being their sister and have been incredible big brothers. As I shared on Facebook, Kota told my mom "The moment I saw Nina she hypnotized me and made me love her." Wow! Times like that you feel like you are doing something right. Praise God. I kind of wonder how God will use this event to mold our sons into the men they will be someday. I realize now how compassionate they are.
I mentioned earlier that Nina-Li has been going to bed flawlessly. It is common for institutionalized children to not want to sleep alone. She had her own bed, but shared rooms with other girls. However, in China, our guide asked her if she wanted anyone to sleep with her in her room and she said no. And she has done great.
There's a lot she has to learn, like prayer. Why do we hold hands and close our eyes before we eat? And homeschool will be an adventure. Considering she doesn't know English and has to learn all her colors, shapes, numbers, and English alphabet, I am pretty much going to pretend like she is 3. She is a sponge when it comes to learning, so I think we'll have fun as she discovers new things.
I cannot tell everyone how much their prayers have sustained us. Your support and love have been immeasurable. I have no idea how many followed our blog, and will even read this post. But, it is so comforting to know how much people care. We are simply two parents doing what God called us to do. It was written on my heart before Bill and I got married in honor of my mom, who was also adopted. Bill has been incredibly strong when I was weak, and vice versa. We have been each others sounding board and comfort.
I will continue to post every once in awhile the progress Nina-Li makes.
Love to you all.
There are some things I am learning about sweet little girly girls like Nina-Li:
90% of Barbie time, is all about the hair. Taking the little rubberbands out, brushing, brushing, brushing, maybe getting it wet, and brushing some more.
Playing is a universal language. It doesn't matter to Nina-Li what language you speak, how old you are, or what you are wearing. She is thrilled to meet you and play with you.
Party dresses or tutus should be worn daily. Life is worth celebrating and why not dress-up for the occassion.
Princesses and Strawberry Shortcake have healing power. Cute band-aids make it all better really fast.
Princess costumes can and should be worn to bed. Why make it an issue? Certainly sweet dreams will flutter by through out the night when worn.
Having a friend brings joy.
I am amazed at the progress we have made in a week. Especially considering how things were in China. She holds my hand often and doesn't want me out of sight. Which is completely normal. However in China, could care less where I was or what I was doing. Bill and Nina-Li are growing closer each day. Nina-Li loves riding on her daddy's shoulders. We took a walk today and she was full of giggles, which we hear daily, A LOT!
Everything is new to Nina-Li. Things you wouldn't think of. Like cups with glitter that swirls around and ice cubes. We've gone from warm water to now 2 ice cubes per cup of water. Last evening she was totally fascinated with the printer and copier. We copied numerous coloring pages. I was tempted to show her how to copy her hand, but I thought we'd have a few dozen copies of hands all over the house if I did. One of the most fascinating things to Nina-Li is blue sky. The first night we arrived home it was 11 PM, and she got to bed at 2 AM. She woke up 14 hours later at 6 PM and then went to bed late that evening. When I tucked her in bed (which went flawlessly), she got out a picture of our home and pointed to her window and then to the blue sky. I assumed she wanted to know when she was going to see daylight. I told her tomorrow (mingtian) she would see day. Well, the next day was sufficient, but cloudy. The following day, she came in my room and said "mama, mama, kan, kan". Which is 'mom, look!' It was the blue sky. At least that is what Bill and I have determined. In China we had sunshine everyday, but no blue sky. Too much smog. The smog was thick enough hardly anyone wore sunglasses.
It is fun watching her discover new things each day. From food to toys. She loves shopping and going places. She is content at home but loves to go out.
We are so proud of our boys and how they have handled the entire situation. Their character really shown through, through out the event. Through all the tears in China, they never once complained. Were always willing to lend a hand, and tolerated Bill and I being a little edgy at times. They never questioned Nina-Li being their sister and have been incredible big brothers. As I shared on Facebook, Kota told my mom "The moment I saw Nina she hypnotized me and made me love her." Wow! Times like that you feel like you are doing something right. Praise God. I kind of wonder how God will use this event to mold our sons into the men they will be someday. I realize now how compassionate they are.
I mentioned earlier that Nina-Li has been going to bed flawlessly. It is common for institutionalized children to not want to sleep alone. She had her own bed, but shared rooms with other girls. However, in China, our guide asked her if she wanted anyone to sleep with her in her room and she said no. And she has done great.
There's a lot she has to learn, like prayer. Why do we hold hands and close our eyes before we eat? And homeschool will be an adventure. Considering she doesn't know English and has to learn all her colors, shapes, numbers, and English alphabet, I am pretty much going to pretend like she is 3. She is a sponge when it comes to learning, so I think we'll have fun as she discovers new things.
I cannot tell everyone how much their prayers have sustained us. Your support and love have been immeasurable. I have no idea how many followed our blog, and will even read this post. But, it is so comforting to know how much people care. We are simply two parents doing what God called us to do. It was written on my heart before Bill and I got married in honor of my mom, who was also adopted. Bill has been incredibly strong when I was weak, and vice versa. We have been each others sounding board and comfort.
I will continue to post every once in awhile the progress Nina-Li makes.
Love to you all.
Sunday, November 21, 2010
Saturday, November 20, 2010
WE ARE HOME!!!!
We are home. And it felt so good to sleep in our own beds.
THE JOURNEY
Our travels went very well. I drew on a piece of paper three airplanes. The agency staff had told her we would be traveling on 3 planes. As we took each trip, we crossed off a plane. She slept a majority of the flight from Shanhai to Chicago. Which was good. However, when she woke up it was morning time in China. So, yep, you guessed it. Little Miss Sunshine wasn't very happy. It was shortly before we arrived in Chicago though. so, she cried only a tiny bit on the plane. And then the entire time going through customs and immigration. However, by the time we got on our flight to KC she was fine.
OUR ARRIVAL
What a wonderful welcome home. Bill went and got the van while we got our luggage. When I walked outside to our van, Nina-Li recognized it right away. (Yeah!) We have incredible friends who brought our van up to the airport. They left Nina-Li some gifts and treats for all of us. Thanks to our neighbor Elizabeth, I had step-by-step photographs of Nina-Li's carseat and how to use it. She got right in and didn't complain. In China no car seats, seat belts are optional. We listened to her Chinese children's CD's in the car, which she loved. We had a great ride home.
HOME
When we got home, Nina-Li was so excited. She ran through the house looking at everything, matching it all to the photographs embedded in her mind. She quickly went upstairs to see her room. She did the same thing. She was very happy. A response we were uncertain if we would get. She played in her room a lot discovering her books and the few toys she has. I read several times not to have a lot of toys right away. It can be overwhelming and over stimulating. I can see that was good advice. She had to touch and see everything. So, if she had a lot, she would have been up all night. She was uncertain to go up into her bed. I was nervous about that. Later I realized she was apprehensive climbing the ladder. Once I taught her how to go up and get to her bed, she was fine.
BEDTIME
We were up late. Obviously with the time change and the late arrival home. I was getting sleeping and told her momma was getting sleepy. The next thing I know I find her in bed looking at her books. Yeah! So we hung out while I commented on the pictures. It was way too late to read. So, I figured out she didn't want lights on and her curtains opened. She fell asleep and has slept for almost 11 hours now and still sleeping. No tears. Which we were prepared for. She has always been a sound sleeper, which is a benefit to all of us.
So, we'll see what our first day brings. Still trying to figure out what she wants for breakfast. I don't have a full breakfast buffet here at home, and she can't nibble and refuse as easily. I think I will need to learn how to make congee, which is a watered down rice that they often have for breakfast. Well, and almost all meals. That and fruit.
THE BOYS
The boys did a great job. So many people commented on what great brothers they are. How kind and good they were. They loved their trip to China. None of us want to be on an airplane for awhile, yet they are already wondering where we will go next. I'm afraid with our trip to Mexico last year and this year's trip to China they are becoming more interested in international travels. Ummmmmm, financing that might be an issue.
Thank you for all of your prayers. They sustained us greatly. I cannot tell you how much your words of encouragement helped me.
I apologize there are now pictures. I have to download all 1600 to my computer.
Love to you all!
THE JOURNEY
Our travels went very well. I drew on a piece of paper three airplanes. The agency staff had told her we would be traveling on 3 planes. As we took each trip, we crossed off a plane. She slept a majority of the flight from Shanhai to Chicago. Which was good. However, when she woke up it was morning time in China. So, yep, you guessed it. Little Miss Sunshine wasn't very happy. It was shortly before we arrived in Chicago though. so, she cried only a tiny bit on the plane. And then the entire time going through customs and immigration. However, by the time we got on our flight to KC she was fine.
OUR ARRIVAL
What a wonderful welcome home. Bill went and got the van while we got our luggage. When I walked outside to our van, Nina-Li recognized it right away. (Yeah!) We have incredible friends who brought our van up to the airport. They left Nina-Li some gifts and treats for all of us. Thanks to our neighbor Elizabeth, I had step-by-step photographs of Nina-Li's carseat and how to use it. She got right in and didn't complain. In China no car seats, seat belts are optional. We listened to her Chinese children's CD's in the car, which she loved. We had a great ride home.
HOME
When we got home, Nina-Li was so excited. She ran through the house looking at everything, matching it all to the photographs embedded in her mind. She quickly went upstairs to see her room. She did the same thing. She was very happy. A response we were uncertain if we would get. She played in her room a lot discovering her books and the few toys she has. I read several times not to have a lot of toys right away. It can be overwhelming and over stimulating. I can see that was good advice. She had to touch and see everything. So, if she had a lot, she would have been up all night. She was uncertain to go up into her bed. I was nervous about that. Later I realized she was apprehensive climbing the ladder. Once I taught her how to go up and get to her bed, she was fine.
BEDTIME
We were up late. Obviously with the time change and the late arrival home. I was getting sleeping and told her momma was getting sleepy. The next thing I know I find her in bed looking at her books. Yeah! So we hung out while I commented on the pictures. It was way too late to read. So, I figured out she didn't want lights on and her curtains opened. She fell asleep and has slept for almost 11 hours now and still sleeping. No tears. Which we were prepared for. She has always been a sound sleeper, which is a benefit to all of us.
So, we'll see what our first day brings. Still trying to figure out what she wants for breakfast. I don't have a full breakfast buffet here at home, and she can't nibble and refuse as easily. I think I will need to learn how to make congee, which is a watered down rice that they often have for breakfast. Well, and almost all meals. That and fruit.
THE BOYS
The boys did a great job. So many people commented on what great brothers they are. How kind and good they were. They loved their trip to China. None of us want to be on an airplane for awhile, yet they are already wondering where we will go next. I'm afraid with our trip to Mexico last year and this year's trip to China they are becoming more interested in international travels. Ummmmmm, financing that might be an issue.
Thank you for all of your prayers. They sustained us greatly. I cannot tell you how much your words of encouragement helped me.
I apologize there are now pictures. I have to download all 1600 to my computer.
Love to you all!
Thursday, November 18, 2010
Good-bye China!
It is our last evening in China. We will be waking up at 5:00 am (3:00 pm your time) and heading to the airport. From Guangzhou we will fly to Shanghai. We have a 6 hour layover there. So, we are considering taking time to ride the MAGLEV (magnetic levitation train) from the airport for a short round trip ride.
We leave there at 5:30 PM, 3:15 AM Friday while you are sleeping. And then will arrive in Chicago around 5:00 central time.
Today has been a good day. Little Miss Sunshine woke up grouchy. However, about 11:00 she was her sweet adorable self. We went shopping, which puts any girl in a good mood. I bought her two very nice Chinese dresses. They are beautiful. I got her one for now and one a size bigger. They were $25 each. Which if you were to see them, you would agree is a good price. I am very glad that I found them. Nina-Li loves them.
I took her down to our adoption agency's office. Catherine talked to her about our travels tomorrow. That Grandpa wouldn't be sitting with her all the time. Our early wake-up time, etc. She explained that Nina would have to wear a seat belt. The conversation was fun and Nina accepted and understood it all very well. Catherine told her, that her America name is Nina-Li and that it means beautiful little girl. Nina loved that. Then she added that every time someone calls her they will be telling her she is beautiful. Which made Nina giggle. She told her she had to wear her seat belt in the van because dad is a crazy driver. Nina giggled a lot at that. She also told Nina she has many people waiting to meet her that want to be her friend.
So, it's been a great day. Please pray for safe & smooth travels with no delays. We are all ready to come home. Including Nina.
Love to you all!
We leave there at 5:30 PM, 3:15 AM Friday while you are sleeping. And then will arrive in Chicago around 5:00 central time.
Today has been a good day. Little Miss Sunshine woke up grouchy. However, about 11:00 she was her sweet adorable self. We went shopping, which puts any girl in a good mood. I bought her two very nice Chinese dresses. They are beautiful. I got her one for now and one a size bigger. They were $25 each. Which if you were to see them, you would agree is a good price. I am very glad that I found them. Nina-Li loves them.
I took her down to our adoption agency's office. Catherine talked to her about our travels tomorrow. That Grandpa wouldn't be sitting with her all the time. Our early wake-up time, etc. She explained that Nina would have to wear a seat belt. The conversation was fun and Nina accepted and understood it all very well. Catherine told her, that her America name is Nina-Li and that it means beautiful little girl. Nina loved that. Then she added that every time someone calls her they will be telling her she is beautiful. Which made Nina giggle. She told her she had to wear her seat belt in the van because dad is a crazy driver. Nina giggled a lot at that. She also told Nina she has many people waiting to meet her that want to be her friend.
So, it's been a great day. Please pray for safe & smooth travels with no delays. We are all ready to come home. Including Nina.
Love to you all!
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
2nd to Last Update
I will have probably one more update from China before we leave. I hope to continue our blog once we arrive home. But, we will see what time allows. Again, thank you Danielle for keeping everyone informed, but I am sure you want to get back to our own routine of things.
We have had Little Miss for 11 days. We have come so far. Yet...we wonder what the road ahead will bring.
Yesterday and today Bill has been a pillar of strength. Standing ground with Nina and she has respected and followed it. Very good. She wants to be with my dad a lot, and we are trying to slow that down a bit. He wants to be Grandpa (in China it is Why Gong). He doesn't want to be dad.
Today was a good day. This afternoon she was a chatterbox as we played dolls and stuff together. I turned on the camera and tried to video it to post. But the file is too big to send. Sometimes I think she thinks I understand everything she is saying. However, it is amazing how even though we don't understand the words, we figure things out.
This evening we went on a riverboat ride on the Pearl River. it was beautiful. With the Asian games here (it is a huge deal), they have alot of the building s and riverfront decorated for the event. We had a great time. We were apprehensive, Nina was getting tired and we were afraid she was going to wail. But, Bill has really established what he expects from her and she followed through. She was able to overcome her sleepiness a bit to enjoy the lights& ride. But, was still very tired.
The boys are having a great time but are definitely ready to come home. They cannot wait to see all their friends. Today we went to a large store like a Wal-Mart and they bought Chinese candy to share with the kids. The grocery store part was Chinese market meets Price Chopper. There was everything from snake to chicken feet to live turtles, fish (alive and dead) to regular produce and pantry goods. The meat market was just raw meat on at the counter like ours, but the people choose and bag their own meat. Something a little unsanitary it seems about that.
We hope you are all doing well.
Love Ya!
We have had Little Miss for 11 days. We have come so far. Yet...we wonder what the road ahead will bring.
Yesterday and today Bill has been a pillar of strength. Standing ground with Nina and she has respected and followed it. Very good. She wants to be with my dad a lot, and we are trying to slow that down a bit. He wants to be Grandpa (in China it is Why Gong). He doesn't want to be dad.
Today was a good day. This afternoon she was a chatterbox as we played dolls and stuff together. I turned on the camera and tried to video it to post. But the file is too big to send. Sometimes I think she thinks I understand everything she is saying. However, it is amazing how even though we don't understand the words, we figure things out.
This evening we went on a riverboat ride on the Pearl River. it was beautiful. With the Asian games here (it is a huge deal), they have alot of the building s and riverfront decorated for the event. We had a great time. We were apprehensive, Nina was getting tired and we were afraid she was going to wail. But, Bill has really established what he expects from her and she followed through. She was able to overcome her sleepiness a bit to enjoy the lights& ride. But, was still very tired.
The boys are having a great time but are definitely ready to come home. They cannot wait to see all their friends. Today we went to a large store like a Wal-Mart and they bought Chinese candy to share with the kids. The grocery store part was Chinese market meets Price Chopper. There was everything from snake to chicken feet to live turtles, fish (alive and dead) to regular produce and pantry goods. The meat market was just raw meat on at the counter like ours, but the people choose and bag their own meat. Something a little unsanitary it seems about that.
We hope you are all doing well.
Love Ya!
Proud to Be an American
Today is citizenship day, well, kind of. Today we went to the US Consulate, and took an oath on Nina's behalf for her to become a US citizen once we hit US soil. It is and sounds more beautiful than the actual experience. We stood with 32 families and took the oath and then waited as they called our names to sign a piece of paper. Intermingled within the families were a half dozen or so Chinese immigrants applying to become US citizens also. A very proud day, yet the ceremony itself wasn't that glamorous.
The day began with little Miss Sunshine, being just that, sunshiny. She was unpredictably cheerful. Maybe because she sweet talked me into wearing her little Chinese outfit today. Whatever the case, she was so delightful at breakfast. That lasted until Grumpers walked off to go do something. Then, she cried and cried and cried. She is very close to him and doesn't want him leaving her. She can leave him to go somewhere, but he cannot leave her. He really didn't realize how much of an impact he has had on her life. This gives us some wisdom on handling our living quarters with her and him.
Nina cried off and on through out the morning as we traveled and enjoyed the local zoo. It was her first visit to the zoo and at times she was just crying to cry. I must share our zoo experience. The safari ride we had the animals so close. Dawson even had a camels backside pretty much to his face. There were several camels, several giraffes, several elephants. Things we may see 1, 2, or 3 of they had dozens. We also got to see black bears, white tigers and yes....Pandas. And they were oh so cute. I think there were 12, including 5 babies that were one year old.
After the zoo we went to the US Consulate and then returned to the hotel. Nina became her cute 7 year old self once here. Being adorable and sweet. Emotions can turn on and off very quickly. And understandably.
We are all missing home and cannot wait to get into our own beds. We miss our friends and family and Facebook. We miss Quik Trip and normal and I miss oatmeal. But as much as we miss things we try to remember that Nina misses everything 10 times more. I brought a small photo album showing Nina her room, how to use a car set (thank you Elizabeth Lovell for modeling!), our home, our dog, etc. She is getting it out more and more. So, I hope she is anticipating it or at least trying to understand it all.
Tomorrow night is riverboat ride night. We cannot wait. However, the evenings are cool and I lost my jean jacket in the last city. I have no idea how. That's the least of my concerns.
Love to you all!
The day began with little Miss Sunshine, being just that, sunshiny. She was unpredictably cheerful. Maybe because she sweet talked me into wearing her little Chinese outfit today. Whatever the case, she was so delightful at breakfast. That lasted until Grumpers walked off to go do something. Then, she cried and cried and cried. She is very close to him and doesn't want him leaving her. She can leave him to go somewhere, but he cannot leave her. He really didn't realize how much of an impact he has had on her life. This gives us some wisdom on handling our living quarters with her and him.
Nina cried off and on through out the morning as we traveled and enjoyed the local zoo. It was her first visit to the zoo and at times she was just crying to cry. I must share our zoo experience. The safari ride we had the animals so close. Dawson even had a camels backside pretty much to his face. There were several camels, several giraffes, several elephants. Things we may see 1, 2, or 3 of they had dozens. We also got to see black bears, white tigers and yes....Pandas. And they were oh so cute. I think there were 12, including 5 babies that were one year old.
After the zoo we went to the US Consulate and then returned to the hotel. Nina became her cute 7 year old self once here. Being adorable and sweet. Emotions can turn on and off very quickly. And understandably.
We are all missing home and cannot wait to get into our own beds. We miss our friends and family and Facebook. We miss Quik Trip and normal and I miss oatmeal. But as much as we miss things we try to remember that Nina misses everything 10 times more. I brought a small photo album showing Nina her room, how to use a car set (thank you Elizabeth Lovell for modeling!), our home, our dog, etc. She is getting it out more and more. So, I hope she is anticipating it or at least trying to understand it all.
Tomorrow night is riverboat ride night. We cannot wait. However, the evenings are cool and I lost my jean jacket in the last city. I have no idea how. That's the least of my concerns.
Love to you all!
Monday, November 15, 2010
4 days to go!
Well, it is Monday evening here in Guangzhou. We have 4 nights to go before we begin our long journey home. I cannot wait to begin a routine. I wonder if Nina thinks this is how we live and that there is a giant breakfast buffet available every morning.
Today went well and not so well. Clinic Day. And the actual exams went well, no problem. Then there was a long pause. Nina-Li is allergic to eggs and she needed 5 shots. Well, when I mentioned this, they were (as I was) concerned because some shots are in egg solution. So, they had to do research to find out exactly what the allergy was and if she can take two of them. So, we waited, and waited. She didn't like that wait. She was sad because Dawson and Grumpers went to go somewhere & they are who she is attaching to the strongest right now. Which triggered her wanting her nanny, which triggered...you got it....the tears. So, we went ahead and got 3 shots and they said she may have to return for the other two. Lovely. After she successfully finished the shots (with a lot of tears) I had a plan. Barbie. We got an adoption Barbie with a white mommy and an Asian baby. Unfortunately I don't resemble this Barbie, and would like to know what mom would wear the outfit she's wearing. However, I was able to negotiate with her when she stopped crying she got Barbie. Score one for mom.
So, we left and returned to the hotel and all was well. We played and went shopping. I let her choose her Chinese dress to purchase, which included a little skirt that has tulle on it. She was pretty happy for the rest of the day. She's a normal 7 year old. It is fun watch her just be a sweet little girl. She plays with all of us a little through out the day. When we tell her no and she will whine, but no is no. Like no you may not run through the restaurant or no you may not run in the street. But, she'll get it.
We realize that with almost every experience we give her, it is probably her first. First restaurant dinners, park visits, tomorrows zoo visit, Wednesday's river boat ride, etc. So, that is fun. It must be a lot for her to take in.
Tomorrow we are going to the zoo/safari in Guangzhou and then from there going to the US Consulate for our oath appointment. We cannot take anything in except our passports. No cameras, purses, etc.
Then Wednesday we go on on the river boat cruise on the Pearl River.
Thursday is mostly a free day and packing day.
Nina is getting closer to Bill. She doesn't want tickles, hugs or kisses. Who can blame her, she has only known us for 8 days. But, she interacts and plays with everyone now. She is responding well to Nina as her name. Mornings are not her best time of the day. She becomes a cute giggly girl after 11 or 12. And is pretty good for the rest of the day. At the orphanage she had a two hour nap supposedly everyday. at 12:30. Since joining the McNay's she's had two naps. Which she seems to be handling fine. A daily nap would be difficult with our schedule, but if I find she needs one once we get in routine, that is what we will do.
Love to you all.
Today went well and not so well. Clinic Day. And the actual exams went well, no problem. Then there was a long pause. Nina-Li is allergic to eggs and she needed 5 shots. Well, when I mentioned this, they were (as I was) concerned because some shots are in egg solution. So, they had to do research to find out exactly what the allergy was and if she can take two of them. So, we waited, and waited. She didn't like that wait. She was sad because Dawson and Grumpers went to go somewhere & they are who she is attaching to the strongest right now. Which triggered her wanting her nanny, which triggered...you got it....the tears. So, we went ahead and got 3 shots and they said she may have to return for the other two. Lovely. After she successfully finished the shots (with a lot of tears) I had a plan. Barbie. We got an adoption Barbie with a white mommy and an Asian baby. Unfortunately I don't resemble this Barbie, and would like to know what mom would wear the outfit she's wearing. However, I was able to negotiate with her when she stopped crying she got Barbie. Score one for mom.
So, we left and returned to the hotel and all was well. We played and went shopping. I let her choose her Chinese dress to purchase, which included a little skirt that has tulle on it. She was pretty happy for the rest of the day. She's a normal 7 year old. It is fun watch her just be a sweet little girl. She plays with all of us a little through out the day. When we tell her no and she will whine, but no is no. Like no you may not run through the restaurant or no you may not run in the street. But, she'll get it.
We realize that with almost every experience we give her, it is probably her first. First restaurant dinners, park visits, tomorrows zoo visit, Wednesday's river boat ride, etc. So, that is fun. It must be a lot for her to take in.
Tomorrow we are going to the zoo/safari in Guangzhou and then from there going to the US Consulate for our oath appointment. We cannot take anything in except our passports. No cameras, purses, etc.
Then Wednesday we go on on the river boat cruise on the Pearl River.
Thursday is mostly a free day and packing day.
Nina is getting closer to Bill. She doesn't want tickles, hugs or kisses. Who can blame her, she has only known us for 8 days. But, she interacts and plays with everyone now. She is responding well to Nina as her name. Mornings are not her best time of the day. She becomes a cute giggly girl after 11 or 12. And is pretty good for the rest of the day. At the orphanage she had a two hour nap supposedly everyday. at 12:30. Since joining the McNay's she's had two naps. Which she seems to be handling fine. A daily nap would be difficult with our schedule, but if I find she needs one once we get in routine, that is what we will do.
Love to you all.
Sunday, November 14, 2010
Good Morning!
Well, while I am waiting for my girly girl to wake-up from her beauty sleep I thought I would write you again.
Yesterday went sooooo smooth, yeah God!
After lunch Nina and I watched Dawson & Dakota play in the cold pool. She tossed the beach ball to them and laughed. She kept putting her sunglasses on upside down. And she kept yelling at me to stop taking pictures. Great, a 3rd child who doesn't want their picture taken! However, I can accept that. So, now I am back to sneaking pictures.
We spent the rest of the evening in our hotel room coloring, playing dolls, etc. I don't know how many rubberbands she put in her pretend Barbie's hair that I had to pull out. This doll didn't have much hair to begin with, and now there's even less. Bill bought her a Beauty in the Beast book written in Chinese. Then we got her a rubber doll set, (still don't know what to call them!) at Wal-Mart that was Beauty in the Beast. So we matched the clothes we had to those in the book.
We are communicating pretty good, between my broken Mandarin (which I have needed so much!) and pointing, repeating, etc. She's getting it and saying words in English pretty well.
We've now had Nina for one week. I have an incredible family. Everything that I have talked about that we have experienced, my dad and the boys have been right there. Patient and strong. I am so proud of the boys for everything they have done. I told Dawson at one point if I could give him the world I would at that point.
Today is clinic day. Ready to get it over with.
No pics for now.
Love to you all.
Yesterday went sooooo smooth, yeah God!
After lunch Nina and I watched Dawson & Dakota play in the cold pool. She tossed the beach ball to them and laughed. She kept putting her sunglasses on upside down. And she kept yelling at me to stop taking pictures. Great, a 3rd child who doesn't want their picture taken! However, I can accept that. So, now I am back to sneaking pictures.
We spent the rest of the evening in our hotel room coloring, playing dolls, etc. I don't know how many rubberbands she put in her pretend Barbie's hair that I had to pull out. This doll didn't have much hair to begin with, and now there's even less. Bill bought her a Beauty in the Beast book written in Chinese. Then we got her a rubber doll set, (still don't know what to call them!) at Wal-Mart that was Beauty in the Beast. So we matched the clothes we had to those in the book.
We are communicating pretty good, between my broken Mandarin (which I have needed so much!) and pointing, repeating, etc. She's getting it and saying words in English pretty well.
We've now had Nina for one week. I have an incredible family. Everything that I have talked about that we have experienced, my dad and the boys have been right there. Patient and strong. I am so proud of the boys for everything they have done. I told Dawson at one point if I could give him the world I would at that point.
Today is clinic day. Ready to get it over with.
No pics for now.
Love to you all.
Guangzhou continued...
Heh, the early bird gets the worm! Michelle is still sleeping, so I'm going to send an update now, muhahaha!!!
Yesterday was a very good day. Things started off with breakfast and a little girl in a bit of a sour mood.Things started picking up late in the morning while we were out on our walk. I've found out that she knows (already) how to work the eyes. I'm in big trouble. She did it to me first at the 7-11 (yeah, they have 7-11 here) when she wanted some gum. There is no use resisting such a force, ha!
Most of the afternoon was spent hanging out and playing in the room. Nina let me have alot of her time and seems to be tempering things alot better. We looked at books, she helped me eat a couple pears (she loves pears), did a little coloring, and practiced our conversation (her primary word right now is 'aaa', but if that fails, she starts chattering in chinese).
Lee and I went to go check out the local shopping area. There is a massive shopping district that is about a mile from here. 5 minutes on the hotel transfer service and we were there. Traffic here is still...well...chinese traffic, humorous as it is. When we got out we were amazed at the density of the area. Not only population-wise, but also with respect to their storefronts. The area greatly resembled about a half-scale Times Square. If your in Guangzhou and have a hankering for American fast food, this is where to go. There were 2 McDonald's, a Pizza Hut, Papa Johns, KFC, and probably a couple others that I didn't see. Also, as Guangzhou is primarily Cantonese, there is a street that showcases different items of food from noodles to scorpions (self-professed, the Cantonese eat anything but the table). Keep in mind your shoulder-to-shoulder with about 5 other people while walking amidst the stores (or eating your scorpions for that matter).
Stepping inside one of the shopping areas, your presented with a labyrinthian maze of incredible proportions. From the entry floor, there are escalators that go down and up. The storefronts are very much akin to slots in a swap-n-shop, as they are about 5-10 feet square and are rented out to people selling their wares. This adds to the whole density confusion. And if that isn't confusing enough, each of their escalators covers two floors, they are paneled with mirrors, and have mezzanine levels between the floors, so your left with a feeling of "how did I miss that area?".
So, after we gathered our bearings, and with a great appreciation for how tight you can pack things together, Lee and I grabbed McDonald's and walked back to the hotel (about a 15 minute mile). Nina wasn't that thrilled with the hamburgers, but she was totally into the wings that I picked up. Oh yeah, she is definitely a fry girl, but is kinda finicky about ketchup.
The night ended with looking at some books some more. She then let me put a bandaid on a papercut she got from the book...ha! Small things are big and you have to make the most of what you got. All to sleep, no crying, and this morning is starting out pretty good too.
Thank you all for your support!
Bill
Yesterday was a very good day. Things started off with breakfast and a little girl in a bit of a sour mood.Things started picking up late in the morning while we were out on our walk. I've found out that she knows (already) how to work the eyes. I'm in big trouble. She did it to me first at the 7-11 (yeah, they have 7-11 here) when she wanted some gum. There is no use resisting such a force, ha!
Most of the afternoon was spent hanging out and playing in the room. Nina let me have alot of her time and seems to be tempering things alot better. We looked at books, she helped me eat a couple pears (she loves pears), did a little coloring, and practiced our conversation (her primary word right now is 'aaa', but if that fails, she starts chattering in chinese).
Lee and I went to go check out the local shopping area. There is a massive shopping district that is about a mile from here. 5 minutes on the hotel transfer service and we were there. Traffic here is still...well...chinese traffic, humorous as it is. When we got out we were amazed at the density of the area. Not only population-wise, but also with respect to their storefronts. The area greatly resembled about a half-scale Times Square. If your in Guangzhou and have a hankering for American fast food, this is where to go. There were 2 McDonald's, a Pizza Hut, Papa Johns, KFC, and probably a couple others that I didn't see. Also, as Guangzhou is primarily Cantonese, there is a street that showcases different items of food from noodles to scorpions (self-professed, the Cantonese eat anything but the table). Keep in mind your shoulder-to-shoulder with about 5 other people while walking amidst the stores (or eating your scorpions for that matter).
Stepping inside one of the shopping areas, your presented with a labyrinthian maze of incredible proportions. From the entry floor, there are escalators that go down and up. The storefronts are very much akin to slots in a swap-n-shop, as they are about 5-10 feet square and are rented out to people selling their wares. This adds to the whole density confusion. And if that isn't confusing enough, each of their escalators covers two floors, they are paneled with mirrors, and have mezzanine levels between the floors, so your left with a feeling of "how did I miss that area?".
So, after we gathered our bearings, and with a great appreciation for how tight you can pack things together, Lee and I grabbed McDonald's and walked back to the hotel (about a 15 minute mile). Nina wasn't that thrilled with the hamburgers, but she was totally into the wings that I picked up. Oh yeah, she is definitely a fry girl, but is kinda finicky about ketchup.
The night ended with looking at some books some more. She then let me put a bandaid on a papercut she got from the book...ha! Small things are big and you have to make the most of what you got. All to sleep, no crying, and this morning is starting out pretty good too.
Thank you all for your support!
Bill
Guangzhou is Beautiful
Greetings from Beautiful Guangzhou. (Gwonjoe)
We are off of the Pearl River on a tiny island called Shamien Island. From what I understand at one time the British (& French) I think once had something to do here. (Sorry, I've just had so much information poured into me I am losing details). For this reason that I cannot explain well, many of the buildings and architecture on British and French inspired, not Chinese. Speaking of the Pearl River, there are lots of celebrations due to the Asian Games and last night they had a boat parade you will see in a photo. We had a room change fortunately, so we have beautiful views of the river and the cityscape behind it.
Another of the photos is of Nina-Li curled up in her tiny bed. We decided to get her, her own bed to separate her a bit from the boys. It is a tiny little foam bed with sides and it was just her size. She loved it.
It was a lovely morning to walk around. There is a beautiful park along the Pearl river in which many people exercise and practice their Tai Chi, ladies do Chinese Line Dancing, and all ages play a version of hackey sack. There is a section of stair that go down into the Pearl River that locals use to swim in the river. The same river in which several cargo ships go up and down. This river is very similar to the Missouri River. Not sure it would be my top choice of exercise.
There are several bronze sculptures through out the island. I would love to get out one morning alone & just snap photos of them.
Today we walked through the park, Nina played at the playground, unsure of some of the playground equipment including the small tornado slide. But, she liked it. We did some shopping and got her a pretend Barbie and some sunglasses. We picked up our laundry. Yeah! Clean clothes. For 6 people we got laundry done for about $26. Not bad. It's been a good day for Nina so far. We can tell that mornings are her low point. She is very quiet. So after breakfast we quickly went outside for a change of scenery.
One of the most refreshing things for me today was breakfast at the White Swan. Several families are here adopting. And instead of the quiet tonations of the Chinese speaking, you hear the loud voices of Americans talking. I never noticed that sound before, because it has always been quite normal. Voices talking over a meal. However, we haven't heard that noise for almost two weeks and for some strange reason it was quite comforting.
Oh, and DENISE LOVELL, there is a sushi place in which you choose your flavor, from a TANK! And I never saw the sight at Wal-Mart we discussed, nor had our guide heard of such a thing.
Enjoy the photos.
Love to you all.
We are off of the Pearl River on a tiny island called Shamien Island. From what I understand at one time the British (& French) I think once had something to do here. (Sorry, I've just had so much information poured into me I am losing details). For this reason that I cannot explain well, many of the buildings and architecture on British and French inspired, not Chinese. Speaking of the Pearl River, there are lots of celebrations due to the Asian Games and last night they had a boat parade you will see in a photo. We had a room change fortunately, so we have beautiful views of the river and the cityscape behind it.
Another of the photos is of Nina-Li curled up in her tiny bed. We decided to get her, her own bed to separate her a bit from the boys. It is a tiny little foam bed with sides and it was just her size. She loved it.
It was a lovely morning to walk around. There is a beautiful park along the Pearl river in which many people exercise and practice their Tai Chi, ladies do Chinese Line Dancing, and all ages play a version of hackey sack. There is a section of stair that go down into the Pearl River that locals use to swim in the river. The same river in which several cargo ships go up and down. This river is very similar to the Missouri River. Not sure it would be my top choice of exercise.
There are several bronze sculptures through out the island. I would love to get out one morning alone & just snap photos of them.
Today we walked through the park, Nina played at the playground, unsure of some of the playground equipment including the small tornado slide. But, she liked it. We did some shopping and got her a pretend Barbie and some sunglasses. We picked up our laundry. Yeah! Clean clothes. For 6 people we got laundry done for about $26. Not bad. It's been a good day for Nina so far. We can tell that mornings are her low point. She is very quiet. So after breakfast we quickly went outside for a change of scenery.
One of the most refreshing things for me today was breakfast at the White Swan. Several families are here adopting. And instead of the quiet tonations of the Chinese speaking, you hear the loud voices of Americans talking. I never noticed that sound before, because it has always been quite normal. Voices talking over a meal. However, we haven't heard that noise for almost two weeks and for some strange reason it was quite comforting.
Oh, and DENISE LOVELL, there is a sushi place in which you choose your flavor, from a TANK! And I never saw the sight at Wal-Mart we discussed, nor had our guide heard of such a thing.
Enjoy the photos.
Love to you all.
Saturday, November 13, 2010
Now in Guangzhou
Ni Hao from Guangzhou. This is a very busy place, for this is the second night of the Asian Games. We were supposed to come last night, however our hotel was overbooked. I found out earlier that the President of Pakistan was at the same hotel last night that we are staying. I'm kind of glad we weren't here for all of that. I thought I saw some secret service looking people here earlier. I told Bill they had ear pieces and everything. Now I know why.
I apologize if I miss-communicated. Some of you may have thought that we were heading home, no, just here to Guangzhou. In Fuzhou, Fujian we had to address all the legalities for Nina to leave China according to the China govt. Here in Guangzhou is where the U.S. Consulate is. Now we have to address all the legalities of her coming home according to US law. I will try to give you the cliff note version. Every hour things change, progress, two steps forward, one step back. I love sharing these things with you. I hope I am not putting anyone to sleep.
O.K., so we're in Guangzhou. Our morning in Fuzhou wasn't smooth sailing. First of all, I had to wake Nina up at 5:30 AM. Not easy for any kid. But, especially for a kid who doesn't understand why she's being woken up and by someone who is claiming to be her mom after 7 days. So, understandable. However, once she saw our guide, you know it, she cried. She cried the hour long ride to the airport, at the airport and on the plane. This difficulty was two-fold. One, I could do nothing to ease her pain and reassure her. Two, the Chinese are very loving and very concerned. The stand and watch and stare for long periods of time. While Bill and my dad were checking in at the airport I was encircled by these sweet caring people staring at us wondering what was wrong. Fortunately, at our gate, two young moms knew enough to understand the problem and helped me reassure her. Then, on the plane the helped. The flight attendants helped and the lady behind us helped. God sent many helpers my way (God is meeting our needs, thank you for the prayers). On the plane she would have been fine other than the seat belt. Didn't like it. (That's going to be a challenge in the van!) 1/3 into the flight she was fine.
Once we arrived in Guangzhou, Nina was quiet and mad but not crying. We had to go to the medical clinic first thing for a TB test. This test is where the inject something under the skin layers to see if there is a TB reaction. I was certain we were going to hear screams. The orphanage reported she cannot stand going to the doctor. However, it was smooth sailing, piece of cake.
The week in a nutshell:
Monday we go get Nina's picture taken for her travel Visa.
Go to Medical Clinic for exam (yeah! what fun!)
Tuesday is our US consulate Oath-taking Ceremony. Official family day. However, no pictures, allowed.
Thursday we pick up her Visa and we are free to go.
Which we will on Friday. We fly from here to Shanghai, then to Chicago and then home. We will finally hit our door step around 1:00 AM on Saturday. After 30 hours total of travel time. Oh begin praying for that one. I just calculated those numbers for the first time.
So, may I bore you more and tell you about my daughter. She is incredibly meticulous. She takes at least 4 minutes to brush her teeth, with a very strict routine of brushing and rinsing. Then she washes her little sweet face. She can wring every drop of water out of a wash cloth. She doesn't like anything on her, at all, and wants her socks & tights very straight and even with her toes. She giggles so adorably. And runs and skips like any other little girl. However, this little girl has had her world rocked, and she can still find moments to giggle, skip and hop. Yeah! She adores my dad and doesn't want to leave him behind when we go places.
I look forward to when she can call me mama and say a few words other than a! (short a). But, we understand that, and some of her Mandarin and have our own little charade interaction going on.
Nina is warming up to the name Nina and responding when we call her that. She also is warming up to Bill. He taught her 'give me 5'! So, thank you thank you for your prayers. They are being answered and giving me strength.
Sorry no pics right now. We will get some tomorrow.
Love to you all!
P.S. Stay tuned, Bill is going to send an update.
I apologize if I miss-communicated. Some of you may have thought that we were heading home, no, just here to Guangzhou. In Fuzhou, Fujian we had to address all the legalities for Nina to leave China according to the China govt. Here in Guangzhou is where the U.S. Consulate is. Now we have to address all the legalities of her coming home according to US law. I will try to give you the cliff note version. Every hour things change, progress, two steps forward, one step back. I love sharing these things with you. I hope I am not putting anyone to sleep.
O.K., so we're in Guangzhou. Our morning in Fuzhou wasn't smooth sailing. First of all, I had to wake Nina up at 5:30 AM. Not easy for any kid. But, especially for a kid who doesn't understand why she's being woken up and by someone who is claiming to be her mom after 7 days. So, understandable. However, once she saw our guide, you know it, she cried. She cried the hour long ride to the airport, at the airport and on the plane. This difficulty was two-fold. One, I could do nothing to ease her pain and reassure her. Two, the Chinese are very loving and very concerned. The stand and watch and stare for long periods of time. While Bill and my dad were checking in at the airport I was encircled by these sweet caring people staring at us wondering what was wrong. Fortunately, at our gate, two young moms knew enough to understand the problem and helped me reassure her. Then, on the plane the helped. The flight attendants helped and the lady behind us helped. God sent many helpers my way (God is meeting our needs, thank you for the prayers). On the plane she would have been fine other than the seat belt. Didn't like it. (That's going to be a challenge in the van!) 1/3 into the flight she was fine.
Once we arrived in Guangzhou, Nina was quiet and mad but not crying. We had to go to the medical clinic first thing for a TB test. This test is where the inject something under the skin layers to see if there is a TB reaction. I was certain we were going to hear screams. The orphanage reported she cannot stand going to the doctor. However, it was smooth sailing, piece of cake.
The week in a nutshell:
Monday we go get Nina's picture taken for her travel Visa.
Go to Medical Clinic for exam (yeah! what fun!)
Tuesday is our US consulate Oath-taking Ceremony. Official family day. However, no pictures, allowed.
Thursday we pick up her Visa and we are free to go.
Which we will on Friday. We fly from here to Shanghai, then to Chicago and then home. We will finally hit our door step around 1:00 AM on Saturday. After 30 hours total of travel time. Oh begin praying for that one. I just calculated those numbers for the first time.
So, may I bore you more and tell you about my daughter. She is incredibly meticulous. She takes at least 4 minutes to brush her teeth, with a very strict routine of brushing and rinsing. Then she washes her little sweet face. She can wring every drop of water out of a wash cloth. She doesn't like anything on her, at all, and wants her socks & tights very straight and even with her toes. She giggles so adorably. And runs and skips like any other little girl. However, this little girl has had her world rocked, and she can still find moments to giggle, skip and hop. Yeah! She adores my dad and doesn't want to leave him behind when we go places.
I look forward to when she can call me mama and say a few words other than a! (short a). But, we understand that, and some of her Mandarin and have our own little charade interaction going on.
Nina is warming up to the name Nina and responding when we call her that. She also is warming up to Bill. He taught her 'give me 5'! So, thank you thank you for your prayers. They are being answered and giving me strength.
Sorry no pics right now. We will get some tomorrow.
Love to you all!
P.S. Stay tuned, Bill is going to send an update.
Friday, November 12, 2010
One more update from Fujian
It is our last evening in Fujian and your prayers are working. We went through the entire day with no tears, at least for her Ayi. So, thank you to all of you who are praying for us. We had a wonderful day as I mentioned with the amusement park. However, we had a meeting to get Nina's passport. It was in the same room we got her from, so we were fearful she would cry. When she saw our guide Tracee, she asked if she was going to see her Ayi. I recognize the word now. I said no, and she kind of moaned, whined, wanting to cry, but didn't. Then we thought she might cry when we left, thinking that she would want to go with Tracee, but all was well.
We are packed. Which also carries good news, because Nina-Li allowed me to pack some of her things she has been cramming in her backpack into her suitcase we bought her here. Another huge accomplishment. It is common for kids to cling to their belongings when going through this. So, she showed a lot of trust. And she is seeing all of us pack our things. So, we will see how tomorrow morning goes. Our guide will explain to her we are going to the airport and going to fly where other children are that she can play with.
So, today we have had a lot of giggles and skipping and sweetness.
Love to you all
We are packed. Which also carries good news, because Nina-Li allowed me to pack some of her things she has been cramming in her backpack into her suitcase we bought her here. Another huge accomplishment. It is common for kids to cling to their belongings when going through this. So, she showed a lot of trust. And she is seeing all of us pack our things. So, we will see how tomorrow morning goes. Our guide will explain to her we are going to the airport and going to fly where other children are that she can play with.
So, today we have had a lot of giggles and skipping and sweetness.
Love to you all
Thank God it's Friday!
Thank God It's Friday! For more reasons than Friday. We have had a great day today. So far....
Nina-Li woke up and ignored us a bit, but she does that everyday. Once she is ready, she warms up to us. Fortunately, it didn't begin in tears. I allowed her to choose from two outfits to wear today and helped her get dressed, we went to breakfast, and then finished getting ready for the day. She is very meticulous. She brushes her teeth for at least 4 minutes, and has a specific routine. She then washes her face and hands. She doesn't like anything on her.
I should back up to last night. When we returned to dinner, she saw Dawson's socks, and gave them to him, telling him to put them away. He said, "Great, now I have two moms!" I went to bed early exhausted. However, I guess the three kids had a peek-a-boo event with lots of giggles.
Back to this morning. After getting ready the kids played hide-and-go-seek. Lots of fun and laughter. We then hit the boardwalk and went to the small children's amusement park. There were 100's of kids there for field trips. Many of them in uniforms for school. Many of them noticed us and tried out their English on us by saying 'hello'. One little girl came up, said hello, asked me my name, told me hers and then asked if I spoke Chinese. It was a conversation she was very proud she had in English.
We had room service lunch and Nina-Li even took food from Bill. So, although she doesn't want him to touch or by close to her, we are taking baby steps.
Our guide just visited with us and gave us a big clue to Nina's behavior. She thought that it was odd that a child from an orphanage was so angry, so she has called the orphanage daily trying to figure out what the deal is. (Tracee has been doing this for 15 years). Well, today, she found out that the caretaker that Nina was closest to attempted to adopt Nina-Li. However, it was rejected probably due to our paperwork already processed.) This caretaker called Ayi not EI like I thought, treated Nina-Li as her own daughter and wanted her very badly. And we speculate that she probably told Nina that too. Now we understand why this is harder. It is as if she was a foster child instead of an orphanage child. And it confirms that Nina-Li has the ability to love and attach to us as a new family and to future relationships. All good news. Just a painful process for her to experience.
So please enjoy these pictures, a delightful day brought to us by God. We leave early in the morning and expect tears as we head to airport, as she will want to return to the orphanage. However, your prayers are sustaining us and being answered. We will be leaving the hotel at 6:00 AM our time, 8 PM your time on Friday. Please, pray for a good drive and flight for Nina.
Thanks for the emails. And I am getting Facebook posts via the email system.
Love to you all.
Nina-Li woke up and ignored us a bit, but she does that everyday. Once she is ready, she warms up to us. Fortunately, it didn't begin in tears. I allowed her to choose from two outfits to wear today and helped her get dressed, we went to breakfast, and then finished getting ready for the day. She is very meticulous. She brushes her teeth for at least 4 minutes, and has a specific routine. She then washes her face and hands. She doesn't like anything on her.
I should back up to last night. When we returned to dinner, she saw Dawson's socks, and gave them to him, telling him to put them away. He said, "Great, now I have two moms!" I went to bed early exhausted. However, I guess the three kids had a peek-a-boo event with lots of giggles.
Back to this morning. After getting ready the kids played hide-and-go-seek. Lots of fun and laughter. We then hit the boardwalk and went to the small children's amusement park. There were 100's of kids there for field trips. Many of them in uniforms for school. Many of them noticed us and tried out their English on us by saying 'hello'. One little girl came up, said hello, asked me my name, told me hers and then asked if I spoke Chinese. It was a conversation she was very proud she had in English.
We had room service lunch and Nina-Li even took food from Bill. So, although she doesn't want him to touch or by close to her, we are taking baby steps.
Our guide just visited with us and gave us a big clue to Nina's behavior. She thought that it was odd that a child from an orphanage was so angry, so she has called the orphanage daily trying to figure out what the deal is. (Tracee has been doing this for 15 years). Well, today, she found out that the caretaker that Nina was closest to attempted to adopt Nina-Li. However, it was rejected probably due to our paperwork already processed.) This caretaker called Ayi not EI like I thought, treated Nina-Li as her own daughter and wanted her very badly. And we speculate that she probably told Nina that too. Now we understand why this is harder. It is as if she was a foster child instead of an orphanage child. And it confirms that Nina-Li has the ability to love and attach to us as a new family and to future relationships. All good news. Just a painful process for her to experience.
So please enjoy these pictures, a delightful day brought to us by God. We leave early in the morning and expect tears as we head to airport, as she will want to return to the orphanage. However, your prayers are sustaining us and being answered. We will be leaving the hotel at 6:00 AM our time, 8 PM your time on Friday. Please, pray for a good drive and flight for Nina.
Thanks for the emails. And I am getting Facebook posts via the email system.
Love to you all.
Thursday, November 11, 2010
Signs of Life in China
Today is Thursday, and it is has been rough. Nina-Li (whom will are still calling Ruan Ruan, not sure when she will be ready for the name change) woke-up crying today. I wonder if she goes to bed she hoping that she will wake-up at the orphanage. It just breaks your heart. You know the pain this sweet child is going through. I cannot hold and rock her, no one can speak the right words in any language to comfort her and you just have to let her grieve. From what I have read in the past year, it is good that she is grieving right away. And it is simply good that she is grieving. This indicates that she has the ability to love, to care, to bond with us in the future. I don't mean to dwell on this. She is very sweet, soft spoken and fun when she is not thinking of the orphanage. Writing this blog is somewhat therapeutic for me I guess.
Nina stopped crying about 45 minutes later and we went to breakfast. But, once back in the hotel room, she cried, and cried, and cried. Grumpers and the boys went to ride the peddle boats at the lake in front of the hotel. While Bill and I sat here, played cards, letting Nina-Li just cry it out. For two hours. We don't know what else we can do, but provide a safe environment for her to do so. She cried so much she got a head-ache. And she allowed me to give her some Children's Advil. So, it shows me she is trusting me. She relies on me to help her in the restroom, give her baths, help brush her teeth, get dressed, and of course, put on make-up. And some of these things, she really doesn't need my help. My friend Angela who adopted a year ago, advised me to create needs. Create situations in which Nina-Li needs me. Good advice.
After Nina cried for about 2 hours, we asked her if she wanted to take a walk, and she did. So, we walked a small garden behind the hotel and then went down to the boardwalk. She held my hand almost the entire time. We eventually ran into the boys with Grumpers. We listened to the retirees singing like a church choir and then returned to the hotel. Both boys ran hand in hand with Nina down the board walk. I think Nina even smiled a tiny bit.
We've spent the afternoon hanging out and taking naps. We got Nina on pbskids.org and showed her how to play a game or two. She even let Bill help her. But, she's refusing chocolate from him, hmmm?
I think we are going to go bowling in a bit and then find dinner.
Tomorrow our plans are to go to the small amusement park by the island I described. Then we pack. We have to leave the hotel by 6 AM Saturday to leave for the airport. I am dreading the flight with Nina but looking forward to the last leg of our trip to Guangzhou (Gwanjoe).
Here are a few pictures of life in Fuzhou.
Love to you all!
Nina stopped crying about 45 minutes later and we went to breakfast. But, once back in the hotel room, she cried, and cried, and cried. Grumpers and the boys went to ride the peddle boats at the lake in front of the hotel. While Bill and I sat here, played cards, letting Nina-Li just cry it out. For two hours. We don't know what else we can do, but provide a safe environment for her to do so. She cried so much she got a head-ache. And she allowed me to give her some Children's Advil. So, it shows me she is trusting me. She relies on me to help her in the restroom, give her baths, help brush her teeth, get dressed, and of course, put on make-up. And some of these things, she really doesn't need my help. My friend Angela who adopted a year ago, advised me to create needs. Create situations in which Nina-Li needs me. Good advice.
After Nina cried for about 2 hours, we asked her if she wanted to take a walk, and she did. So, we walked a small garden behind the hotel and then went down to the boardwalk. She held my hand almost the entire time. We eventually ran into the boys with Grumpers. We listened to the retirees singing like a church choir and then returned to the hotel. Both boys ran hand in hand with Nina down the board walk. I think Nina even smiled a tiny bit.
We've spent the afternoon hanging out and taking naps. We got Nina on pbskids.org and showed her how to play a game or two. She even let Bill help her. But, she's refusing chocolate from him, hmmm?
I think we are going to go bowling in a bit and then find dinner.
Tomorrow our plans are to go to the small amusement park by the island I described. Then we pack. We have to leave the hotel by 6 AM Saturday to leave for the airport. I am dreading the flight with Nina but looking forward to the last leg of our trip to Guangzhou (Gwanjoe).
Here are a few pictures of life in Fuzhou.
Love to you all!
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
Buddha Belly is the Star for Today
Hi,
Well, everyone is laying down for their nap right now. Including Nina-Li with Grumpers. In the picture you'll notice she has headphones on. We purchased her a Chinese Children's CD set and she loves it! Big points for Bill. He had to help her with the MP3 and finally got the connection he was needing. Yes, now Nina-Li knows he's the techie guy. He also got to play a card matching game with her. So, he finally feels as though she doesn't completely hate him.
Today Nina-Li is most loyal to Grumpers. We walked the boardwalk the other direction today. It lead us to a beautiful park that is kind of a small island on the lake. A park like this would have cost $$$ in the states. Yet, it was so lovely. The gardens were just beautiful. There were fish ponds and waterfalls. Mums were planted and formed into sculptures such as dragons, peacocks, dolphins, even boats and canons. Many of the locals watch and stared. There was a large group that decided they all needed pictures of themselves with us, well, mostly with Grumpers and we were in the background. I think honestly, his belly is amazing them. He would tell you the same. One of the Holt staff called him Buddha Belly and since then, that has been his name. We got some ice cream which tasted more like thick whipped cream frozen. Very good. At first Nina-Li said no, but then Grumpers kept offering his and she ended up sharing his with him.
Right before we left for our walk, Nina-Li was a bit sad we could see it coming, then the soft crying (not wailing or screaming, think God!) came. She cried for about 10 minutes into our walk, and then the attractions I think distracted her from her sadness. It seems as though about 10 AM and around 4 PM are when she hits her lows.
Well, I must now warn all my neighbors: If you see a sweet little Chinese girl peeing in your yard this summer, please do not be alarmed. Nina-Li has been very good at controlling herself and using the 'western toilets' here at the hotel. But, here in China it is acceptable for children to go outside in the bushes. As we were walking she just went over in the bushes and shimmied down her little skirt and went. Surprised Bill and I. Hopefully before summer she will learn that, THAT is not an American way of life. It was funny though.
We are still calling her Ruan Ruan. Every once in awhile someone will say Nina, so hopefully we will just begin incorporating her name and she will get it some day. She has been so sad and so attached to everything from the orphanage (well, her clothes) that we just felt like we couldn't announce to her a name change too.
I hope you enjoy these pictures, I was anxious to share them with you.
Much Love
Well, everyone is laying down for their nap right now. Including Nina-Li with Grumpers. In the picture you'll notice she has headphones on. We purchased her a Chinese Children's CD set and she loves it! Big points for Bill. He had to help her with the MP3 and finally got the connection he was needing. Yes, now Nina-Li knows he's the techie guy. He also got to play a card matching game with her. So, he finally feels as though she doesn't completely hate him.
Today Nina-Li is most loyal to Grumpers. We walked the boardwalk the other direction today. It lead us to a beautiful park that is kind of a small island on the lake. A park like this would have cost $$$ in the states. Yet, it was so lovely. The gardens were just beautiful. There were fish ponds and waterfalls. Mums were planted and formed into sculptures such as dragons, peacocks, dolphins, even boats and canons. Many of the locals watch and stared. There was a large group that decided they all needed pictures of themselves with us, well, mostly with Grumpers and we were in the background. I think honestly, his belly is amazing them. He would tell you the same. One of the Holt staff called him Buddha Belly and since then, that has been his name. We got some ice cream which tasted more like thick whipped cream frozen. Very good. At first Nina-Li said no, but then Grumpers kept offering his and she ended up sharing his with him.
Right before we left for our walk, Nina-Li was a bit sad we could see it coming, then the soft crying (not wailing or screaming, think God!) came. She cried for about 10 minutes into our walk, and then the attractions I think distracted her from her sadness. It seems as though about 10 AM and around 4 PM are when she hits her lows.
Well, I must now warn all my neighbors: If you see a sweet little Chinese girl peeing in your yard this summer, please do not be alarmed. Nina-Li has been very good at controlling herself and using the 'western toilets' here at the hotel. But, here in China it is acceptable for children to go outside in the bushes. As we were walking she just went over in the bushes and shimmied down her little skirt and went. Surprised Bill and I. Hopefully before summer she will learn that, THAT is not an American way of life. It was funny though.
We are still calling her Ruan Ruan. Every once in awhile someone will say Nina, so hopefully we will just begin incorporating her name and she will get it some day. She has been so sad and so attached to everything from the orphanage (well, her clothes) that we just felt like we couldn't announce to her a name change too.
I hope you enjoy these pictures, I was anxious to share them with you.
Much Love
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
60 hours and counting...
Well, we've had Nina-Li for 2 1/2 days. Yesterday I was really hoping for a fantasy. We went to Wal-Mart. This is probably her first time to ever go shopping. So, in my little dream world I thought this would be a dream come true for a little girl to choose things she wanted for the first time. However, we had to drive there. And every time we drive, she thinks she is going back to the orphanage. So, Wal-Mart was full of tears. However, through those tears, she definitely had strong opinions of what she wanted. So, she was still really cute while crying for her E.I. at the same time. She chose a red dress and a Minnie Mouse skirt with matching leggings attached. Some pink tennis shoes and bronze & gold boots (not quite my taste, but I'll go with it), we got her a backpack that she wore through-out the store, a suitcase, a CD of Chinese children's songs and two toys. One little miniature doll set and a larger set of those princess rubber dolls. Would someone please tell me what those are called? Everything is very girly. She doesn't want anything to do with pants, only dresses and skirts. I brought her a little jean jacket, and she wears it of everything. Always wearing barrettes and headbands. And of course she still loves make-up. (Side note: Yesterday I had her put make-up on me! Hilarious but fun!)
We ate at McDonald's which was right by Wal-Mart. And although she said she didn't want anything she ate a huge order of french fries (& I believe she tried ketch-up for the first time and really liked it) and drank a medium size orange juice.
When we arrived at the hotel she was very mad. It took awhile for her to calm down. Sometimes we aren't handling well. When she has these fits she just screams as loud as she can. It is so hard. Because no one, including our guide can calm her down. Bill has had a tough time with this. He wants to be dad and take charge, but it is making Nina-Li draw away from him. He was feeling very low last night. I prayed for him a lot last night. Stay tuned for today later in this message.
Nina finds peace in hanging out with the boys, especially Dawson. We were told that if we brought our kids she would bond with them quicker and feel safe with them, and that is definitely the case. This would have been much harder with out them with her being 7. And she probably would have been a bit bored with us. It is so funny because the boys and my dad do not know any Mandarin and are communicating with her just fine. Bill and I are using our tiny bit of knowledge and cheat sheets and she ignores us half of the time. So, I think we need to relax a bit. Our Mandarin has come in handy in getting around and communicating with her somewhat though. Thank you Bob! You would probably giggle, but we're making it!
Before the sun (hidden behind the smog) went down behind the mountain here in Fuzhou we went for a walk. In front of our hotel is a lake with a beautiful boardwalk & trail around it. We went about half way around and back. Of course, lots of stares from the locals. The entire walk she held Dawson's hand. He is her biggest comfort right now. She even slept with him. Not sure if that was the right move, but I've read several times, don't worry about details and just let her feel safe. The boardwalk had beautiful greenery and flowers around. It was dusk, and there were several bats flying around us. They came quite close, to the point that if you were fast enough, you could probably just grab it.
We had dinner here at the hotel again. Much of the local cuisine here is difficult for us to interpret, they don't have menus in English as they do in Beijing and Guangzhou. Our guide told us if you use the pictures, you often won't get what you think you are getting. Nina-Li told me she didn't want anything, but as soon as I put the food in front of her she eats.
So, the evening closed with Nina-Li once again going to bed in her clothes. Not sure if she wore PJ's ever or if she is just attached to her clothing.
However, with clothing we made progress. You see she has been wearing the same undershirt, skirt, tights, underwear and shoes for three days. She choose a long shirt or dress and just wears it over her original skirt so you really don't see it. (BTW, she is wearing 4t perfectly, 5t a little big, but working.) So today, I gave her the mini mouse skirt/tights she bought and fortunately had a very cute shirt here to match. And she wanted to wear it. I also showed her, her new underwear that she chose and wanted to wear it. So, when I went to put on her skirt/leggings (they are connected) she wanted her old tights on. I smelled the feet and pinched my nose, 'stinky' and then had her smell them. She agreed! Yeah! But, she was concerned about covering her feet, so I showed her the socks I brought which were just plain white, boring, no lace socks. She didn't like them, but decided she must wear them. So, everything she is wearing other than her undershirt is new. And of course, her original skirt and tights went her in backpack along with her other prized positions. She loves the hair pretties. Her hair is so short, so the barrettes work best. However, today she wanted pony tail holders. Fortunately I had those little tiny rubber bands and was able to work out something. I'll attach the photo.
Bill made progress this morning. Nina-Li was playing dolls and needed help and she turned to him for help. Which was great progress. So, Bill got to play dolls with her (and loved it!) for 15 minutes or so.
Today we walk the boardwalk which leads to a park and a carnival/amusement park. We are staying here. We've decided to try to avoid car rides except for necessary appointments, which I think we only have on Friday. Then Saturday, very early, we fly to Guangzhou for our last stop.
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We ate at McDonald's which was right by Wal-Mart. And although she said she didn't want anything she ate a huge order of french fries (& I believe she tried ketch-up for the first time and really liked it) and drank a medium size orange juice.
When we arrived at the hotel she was very mad. It took awhile for her to calm down. Sometimes we aren't handling well. When she has these fits she just screams as loud as she can. It is so hard. Because no one, including our guide can calm her down. Bill has had a tough time with this. He wants to be dad and take charge, but it is making Nina-Li draw away from him. He was feeling very low last night. I prayed for him a lot last night. Stay tuned for today later in this message.
Nina finds peace in hanging out with the boys, especially Dawson. We were told that if we brought our kids she would bond with them quicker and feel safe with them, and that is definitely the case. This would have been much harder with out them with her being 7. And she probably would have been a bit bored with us. It is so funny because the boys and my dad do not know any Mandarin and are communicating with her just fine. Bill and I are using our tiny bit of knowledge and cheat sheets and she ignores us half of the time. So, I think we need to relax a bit. Our Mandarin has come in handy in getting around and communicating with her somewhat though. Thank you Bob! You would probably giggle, but we're making it!
Before the sun (hidden behind the smog) went down behind the mountain here in Fuzhou we went for a walk. In front of our hotel is a lake with a beautiful boardwalk & trail around it. We went about half way around and back. Of course, lots of stares from the locals. The entire walk she held Dawson's hand. He is her biggest comfort right now. She even slept with him. Not sure if that was the right move, but I've read several times, don't worry about details and just let her feel safe. The boardwalk had beautiful greenery and flowers around. It was dusk, and there were several bats flying around us. They came quite close, to the point that if you were fast enough, you could probably just grab it.
We had dinner here at the hotel again. Much of the local cuisine here is difficult for us to interpret, they don't have menus in English as they do in Beijing and Guangzhou. Our guide told us if you use the pictures, you often won't get what you think you are getting. Nina-Li told me she didn't want anything, but as soon as I put the food in front of her she eats.
So, the evening closed with Nina-Li once again going to bed in her clothes. Not sure if she wore PJ's ever or if she is just attached to her clothing.
However, with clothing we made progress. You see she has been wearing the same undershirt, skirt, tights, underwear and shoes for three days. She choose a long shirt or dress and just wears it over her original skirt so you really don't see it. (BTW, she is wearing 4t perfectly, 5t a little big, but working.) So today, I gave her the mini mouse skirt/tights she bought and fortunately had a very cute shirt here to match. And she wanted to wear it. I also showed her, her new underwear that she chose and wanted to wear it. So, when I went to put on her skirt/leggings (they are connected) she wanted her old tights on. I smelled the feet and pinched my nose, 'stinky' and then had her smell them. She agreed! Yeah! But, she was concerned about covering her feet, so I showed her the socks I brought which were just plain white, boring, no lace socks. She didn't like them, but decided she must wear them. So, everything she is wearing other than her undershirt is new. And of course, her original skirt and tights went her in backpack along with her other prized positions. She loves the hair pretties. Her hair is so short, so the barrettes work best. However, today she wanted pony tail holders. Fortunately I had those little tiny rubber bands and was able to work out something. I'll attach the photo.
Bill made progress this morning. Nina-Li was playing dolls and needed help and she turned to him for help. Which was great progress. So, Bill got to play dolls with her (and loved it!) for 15 minutes or so.
Today we walk the boardwalk which leads to a park and a carnival/amusement park. We are staying here. We've decided to try to avoid car rides except for necessary appointments, which I think we only have on Friday. Then Saturday, very early, we fly to Guangzhou for our last stop.
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Love to you all!
Monday, November 8, 2010
Quick Little Update
Hi Everyone!
Quick little update.
It is Tuesday morning and we've been together with Nina-Li for about 40 hours or so. She slept through the night again last night. Didn't wake up in tears.
However, she puts all of her things in a little gift bag I have, which is normal. She still is wearing the same tights and same skirt, but with a little dress. She woke-up wanting bows in her hair and make-up on. I know what aisle I will be shopping in at Target! Once she decides she wants to wear something from the drawer of clothes I have for her, it cannot go back in the drawer. It's as if, this is mine now, not the drawers'.
Funny story, I was showing her pictures of her room saying "Ni de" meaning, yours. This was yesterday morning when she wanted to go back to the orphanage. Every picture she said no. Until she saw the picture of the little tutu that Lisa Ramsey got her, and then she shook her head yes. So funny.
Dawson just taught her how to play the matching game and she liked that. She likes playing Legos with them. Dawson bought a train set in Beijing. She likes helping him set it up and running it. It's surprising what we can use to connect with her. She loves playing with Dakota too. She asks him for help and holds his hand. I am incredibly greatful we brought the boys. I think this would have been twice as hard with out them. They are the entertainment so I can send these updates. Can anyone tell me in the homeschool world how do I log family bonding? This has had a profound affect on the boys. They may be missing a month of school, but this is so worth it!
We are still calling Nina-Li by her name. Ruan Ruan or Ron Ron.
My prayer request is that she connects with Bill. He is having a tough time finding opportunities to do so and she doesn't reach out to him like the rest of us.
Also, I want you to know my friend Danielle is doing all these posts for me. I cannot access Facebook or the blog to update. I can only access email. So, thank you Danielle. It is encouraging to me to be able to communicate with everyone.
Today we are going to go get breakfast with Nina-Li for the first time. Yesterday she only took some milk and stayed in the room. Then we are going shopping at Wal-Mart. Denise, I will be looking for those special workers in blue vests! Camera ready!
Love to you all.
Quick little update.
It is Tuesday morning and we've been together with Nina-Li for about 40 hours or so. She slept through the night again last night. Didn't wake up in tears.
However, she puts all of her things in a little gift bag I have, which is normal. She still is wearing the same tights and same skirt, but with a little dress. She woke-up wanting bows in her hair and make-up on. I know what aisle I will be shopping in at Target! Once she decides she wants to wear something from the drawer of clothes I have for her, it cannot go back in the drawer. It's as if, this is mine now, not the drawers'.
Funny story, I was showing her pictures of her room saying "Ni de" meaning, yours. This was yesterday morning when she wanted to go back to the orphanage. Every picture she said no. Until she saw the picture of the little tutu that Lisa Ramsey got her, and then she shook her head yes. So funny.
Dawson just taught her how to play the matching game and she liked that. She likes playing Legos with them. Dawson bought a train set in Beijing. She likes helping him set it up and running it. It's surprising what we can use to connect with her. She loves playing with Dakota too. She asks him for help and holds his hand. I am incredibly greatful we brought the boys. I think this would have been twice as hard with out them. They are the entertainment so I can send these updates. Can anyone tell me in the homeschool world how do I log family bonding? This has had a profound affect on the boys. They may be missing a month of school, but this is so worth it!
We are still calling Nina-Li by her name. Ruan Ruan or Ron Ron.
My prayer request is that she connects with Bill. He is having a tough time finding opportunities to do so and she doesn't reach out to him like the rest of us.
Also, I want you to know my friend Danielle is doing all these posts for me. I cannot access Facebook or the blog to update. I can only access email. So, thank you Danielle. It is encouraging to me to be able to communicate with everyone.
Today we are going to go get breakfast with Nina-Li for the first time. Yesterday she only took some milk and stayed in the room. Then we are going shopping at Wal-Mart. Denise, I will be looking for those special workers in blue vests! Camera ready!
Love to you all.
Gotcha Day!
Ni Hao from Fuzhou, Fujian, China.
Gotcha Day was everything that a parent would want. We met our beautiful Nina-Li in just a sofa area by a meeting room at our hotel. She came up to us very soft spoken and sweet. She had our album we sent her and easily identified all of us. We gave her a panda bear that she would not let go of. We then got out the bubbles. She squealed in delight! It was just as sweet as can be. Up to this day she has been very proud that she is going to America. Boasted about it at the orphanage. However, on the way to the hotel she changed her mind. So, her response to us was very good. However, we were warned that the evening could be rough. And it was.
Once we were done in the conference room and Bill picked her up, she screamed and wailed. It would just break your heart. This continued for about 3 hours. She finally just exhausted herself and went to sleep with all her clothes on at 8:30. She fell asleep with the little princess doll that Linda Forsythe gave her. She even covered up the little princess with her blanket. She slept until we woke her up at 7:45 this morning. Only waking up once and wimpering for about a minute. She is 7 and is fully aware that she will never see her friends and caretakers again. She has cried for her E.I. (sp?) several times. That was her favorite nanny.
She was sad this morning until the phone rang and then suddenly was wlling to brush her teeth and get ready. Everything went remarkably smooth. She began putting everything in a gift bag that we have given her and a couple of things of clothing she wore from the orphanage. Then it dawned on me, she thought she was returning to the orphanage. So, I decided to enjoy the peace we had and just let her think what she wanted. We walked hand in hand to driver to go to some appointments. That is when the next crying session began. Our guide tried to explain she wasn't going back. At every appt. the staff would try to comfort and explain to her. If they couldn't do it in Nina-Li's language, there was no way I could.
One of the problems was she was starving because she didn't eat dinner or breakfast. As soon as we arrived in our room she engulfed a banana, gulped some water down and then tried to escape. That was rough. However, thank you for mother nature. She had to go potty. And that broke up that. Bill arrived with some Congee (rice soup) and she ate all of it, and there was a lot! Bill went to find something for the rest of us to eat, so I had about 60-90 minutes alone with Nina-Li. She wanted her teeth brushed and then she saw my make-up and asked for eye shadow and blush. Well, of course I am going to oblige. We then painted her fingernails, took a walk in the hotel lobby and outside the front door. We read and colored. It was very delightful. Everything was good. We are learning how to communicate the best we can. She played with the boys and is doing well.
We had another little outburst for about 30 minutes or so. We think it was because she didn't get a nap in. She takes 2 hour naps everyday. I finally got her to lay down and after 15 minutes or so, she was fine.
For the evening we went to dinner here in the hotel. I think she really liked that. I believe it is probably the first time she has been to a restaurant and been served. We learned she likes french fries, shrimp, fetticinni alfredo, and bread. As we returned to the room she walked hand in hand with Dakota.
Nina-Li is going through a grieving process and it is completely normal. Difficult to handle. You want to comfort and consoul her. But, you can't. We have found the best thing to do is let her grieve.
And regarding our little make-up session. Now, everytime she goes to the bathroom, she asks for make-up. However, she has to say the English words eyes, cheeks and lips to get it. It is a good bonding opportunity. So far I can only get her to wear the pinguin shirt that Chris Jarrett got her and a jean jacket. She refuses to take off her tghts, boots and skirt that she came to us in. Even after we painted her toe nails, she insisted on getting those tights on right away.
So, we will see what tomorrow brings. We are going to Wal-Mart and have a list of items we want her to choose including a pair of shoes, new tights and a few toys and clothes.
Thank you for all your prayers. They are sustaining us right now. Believe me. This is tough. Yet, we are having more and more moments of connecting.
Love to you all!
Gotcha Day was everything that a parent would want. We met our beautiful Nina-Li in just a sofa area by a meeting room at our hotel. She came up to us very soft spoken and sweet. She had our album we sent her and easily identified all of us. We gave her a panda bear that she would not let go of. We then got out the bubbles. She squealed in delight! It was just as sweet as can be. Up to this day she has been very proud that she is going to America. Boasted about it at the orphanage. However, on the way to the hotel she changed her mind. So, her response to us was very good. However, we were warned that the evening could be rough. And it was.
Once we were done in the conference room and Bill picked her up, she screamed and wailed. It would just break your heart. This continued for about 3 hours. She finally just exhausted herself and went to sleep with all her clothes on at 8:30. She fell asleep with the little princess doll that Linda Forsythe gave her. She even covered up the little princess with her blanket. She slept until we woke her up at 7:45 this morning. Only waking up once and wimpering for about a minute. She is 7 and is fully aware that she will never see her friends and caretakers again. She has cried for her E.I. (sp?) several times. That was her favorite nanny.
She was sad this morning until the phone rang and then suddenly was wlling to brush her teeth and get ready. Everything went remarkably smooth. She began putting everything in a gift bag that we have given her and a couple of things of clothing she wore from the orphanage. Then it dawned on me, she thought she was returning to the orphanage. So, I decided to enjoy the peace we had and just let her think what she wanted. We walked hand in hand to driver to go to some appointments. That is when the next crying session began. Our guide tried to explain she wasn't going back. At every appt. the staff would try to comfort and explain to her. If they couldn't do it in Nina-Li's language, there was no way I could.
One of the problems was she was starving because she didn't eat dinner or breakfast. As soon as we arrived in our room she engulfed a banana, gulped some water down and then tried to escape. That was rough. However, thank you for mother nature. She had to go potty. And that broke up that. Bill arrived with some Congee (rice soup) and she ate all of it, and there was a lot! Bill went to find something for the rest of us to eat, so I had about 60-90 minutes alone with Nina-Li. She wanted her teeth brushed and then she saw my make-up and asked for eye shadow and blush. Well, of course I am going to oblige. We then painted her fingernails, took a walk in the hotel lobby and outside the front door. We read and colored. It was very delightful. Everything was good. We are learning how to communicate the best we can. She played with the boys and is doing well.
We had another little outburst for about 30 minutes or so. We think it was because she didn't get a nap in. She takes 2 hour naps everyday. I finally got her to lay down and after 15 minutes or so, she was fine.
For the evening we went to dinner here in the hotel. I think she really liked that. I believe it is probably the first time she has been to a restaurant and been served. We learned she likes french fries, shrimp, fetticinni alfredo, and bread. As we returned to the room she walked hand in hand with Dakota.
Nina-Li is going through a grieving process and it is completely normal. Difficult to handle. You want to comfort and consoul her. But, you can't. We have found the best thing to do is let her grieve.
And regarding our little make-up session. Now, everytime she goes to the bathroom, she asks for make-up. However, she has to say the English words eyes, cheeks and lips to get it. It is a good bonding opportunity. So far I can only get her to wear the pinguin shirt that Chris Jarrett got her and a jean jacket. She refuses to take off her tghts, boots and skirt that she came to us in. Even after we painted her toe nails, she insisted on getting those tights on right away.
So, we will see what tomorrow brings. We are going to Wal-Mart and have a list of items we want her to choose including a pair of shoes, new tights and a few toys and clothes.
Thank you for all your prayers. They are sustaining us right now. Believe me. This is tough. Yet, we are having more and more moments of connecting.
Love to you all!
Sunday, November 7, 2010
Good-bye Beijing!
Our last full day in Beijing was pretty laid back. Bill and I had an adoption meeting all morning and then all 5 of us had lunch with 3 other families who are here with our agency adopting. However, there are several families through other agencies here to adopt too. We have seen a few out and about.
After lunch we decided to defensively walk down to Walking Street. This isn't the actual name, just what everyone calls it. It is closed to traffic so everyone can casually walk around and shop. It is a huge shopping district. From what I know there are a minimum of 3 malls within 3 blocks of one another. They are all 5 and 6 levels. We had fun doing zainy poses and looking in the Asian shops. We went into a candy store and looked around. There was a small tray of some sort of crackers all broken up. They had a few about the store. I tried a little sample when suddenly I was heavily scorned by this woman who worked there. I kept saying Dui Bu Chi which means excuse me. But, she let me have it. Bill and I couldn't stop laughing later about it. It was funny. I didn't know how to say I'm sorry, so my choice of words probably didn't satisfy her.
We are amazed by the international culture here. We have met or observed people from Brazil, Singapore, Germany, France, Japan, Israel, Brussels and Australia.
Yesterday was a beautiful sunny day, except we couldn't see the sun. You see wind is a friend to Beijing, and if there is not wind the smog sets heavily down upon the city. It was disgusting. We wanted to eat Roast Duck last night or Peking Duck. It's kind of like barbecue in KC, just the local cuising for the area. The place we wanted to go was only 5 blocks away. However, Bill and I couldn't bare the thought of walking through the smog much more.
So, we settled for a little French place and had pizza!
Last night after dinner Bll and I went down to Snack Street. (Right next to Walking street) Vendors are stretched about 50 yards down the street selling the delicatessens that make you cringe insdie. It was a lot of fun. The assortment to choose from included: Small baby chickens (cooked as if they are trying to escape the frying pan), star fish, sea urchins, eel, whole squid, sea horses, silk worms, beetles, lamb (intestines we think), snake, pranges and more. Bill decided to take a walk on the wild side (does this surprise you?) and eat snake. This family from Israel came up to us and were 'exclaiming what is he eating, what is he eating?' so the gentleman joined Bill and tried some. Bill's description of the taste is a very common one "It taste like chicken." To cook this variet of food it is all served on a stick and deep fried. The grease dripping of of the snake alone was gross, not to mention the food.
So today in about an hour, we are off to the airport to go to Fujian. We will be meeting our daughter in 9 hours. Very Excited!!!!
Blessings to you all!
P.S., Unfortunately I just looked and Bill hasn't downloaded the photos yet. So, you will have to stay tuned...I know you are dying of curiosity to see the snacks! :)
After lunch we decided to defensively walk down to Walking Street. This isn't the actual name, just what everyone calls it. It is closed to traffic so everyone can casually walk around and shop. It is a huge shopping district. From what I know there are a minimum of 3 malls within 3 blocks of one another. They are all 5 and 6 levels. We had fun doing zainy poses and looking in the Asian shops. We went into a candy store and looked around. There was a small tray of some sort of crackers all broken up. They had a few about the store. I tried a little sample when suddenly I was heavily scorned by this woman who worked there. I kept saying Dui Bu Chi which means excuse me. But, she let me have it. Bill and I couldn't stop laughing later about it. It was funny. I didn't know how to say I'm sorry, so my choice of words probably didn't satisfy her.
We are amazed by the international culture here. We have met or observed people from Brazil, Singapore, Germany, France, Japan, Israel, Brussels and Australia.
Yesterday was a beautiful sunny day, except we couldn't see the sun. You see wind is a friend to Beijing, and if there is not wind the smog sets heavily down upon the city. It was disgusting. We wanted to eat Roast Duck last night or Peking Duck. It's kind of like barbecue in KC, just the local cuising for the area. The place we wanted to go was only 5 blocks away. However, Bill and I couldn't bare the thought of walking through the smog much more.
So, we settled for a little French place and had pizza!
Last night after dinner Bll and I went down to Snack Street. (Right next to Walking street) Vendors are stretched about 50 yards down the street selling the delicatessens that make you cringe insdie. It was a lot of fun. The assortment to choose from included: Small baby chickens (cooked as if they are trying to escape the frying pan), star fish, sea urchins, eel, whole squid, sea horses, silk worms, beetles, lamb (intestines we think), snake, pranges and more. Bill decided to take a walk on the wild side (does this surprise you?) and eat snake. This family from Israel came up to us and were 'exclaiming what is he eating, what is he eating?' so the gentleman joined Bill and tried some. Bill's description of the taste is a very common one "It taste like chicken." To cook this variet of food it is all served on a stick and deep fried. The grease dripping of of the snake alone was gross, not to mention the food.
So today in about an hour, we are off to the airport to go to Fujian. We will be meeting our daughter in 9 hours. Very Excited!!!!
Blessings to you all!
P.S., Unfortunately I just looked and Bill hasn't downloaded the photos yet. So, you will have to stay tuned...I know you are dying of curiosity to see the snacks! :)
Friday, November 5, 2010
Beijing Chaos & Beauty
Our first two days in Beijing, Thursday & Friday were quite the adventure. From seeing how they live, what they eat to how they get around it was quite the adventure. Although we are still trying to adjust to flying through 13 time zones, we are managing to do as much as we can. On day 1 we hung out in Beijing, and walked a lot. The only sight-seeing we did other than immersing ourselves in the culture was the Forbidden City which is across the street from Tianemin Square. There were thousands of people there. It was overwhelming. And although they are across the street from each other, you go back and forth through an underground tunnel. For the street is 8 lanes wide. I would have enjoyed Forbidden City more perhaps if we had arranged a guide. I guess the tall Americans were easily identifiable. After every turn we were constantly approached by peddlers and willing tour guides saying they would give us a good tour for $$$. We were warned about the peddlers. Not only do you not want to purchase something, because then they all will swamp you. The danger is that the item is of course over priced and they will give you 'change' with counterfeit money. After awhile with so many people and so many peddlers I just wanted to get out of there. Which is a shame because I am sure we would have enjoyed it more.
On Friday we went to the Summer Palace (which was Dawson's, Bill's and my favorite), a jade factory, the Great Wall (Dakota's favorite) and a silk factory.
Bill and I were discussing our observations. The Chinese are hard workers. It is in their culture. From building the Great Wall 2,000 years ago to the Summer Palace being built and a lake literally hand dugged 300 years ago (approx.) We seem them going to work on bicycles with children toting along either on a lap or in the back or miraculously hanging on somehow. If they need to delivery packages (several) or cabbage or 8 fooot long poles and only have a bike, that is what they do. We see a lot of 'delivery' of what we would consider freight simply done on bikes. Our joke is "There goes UPS." But in all seriousness, if we had so much to cart around, and only had a bike, most of us would say, it cannot be done.
Beijing is huge. 20 to 30 million people (we've heard both). As an outsider, it is chaotic. For them it is organized chaos. How they manage to get through the streets alone is something you have to laugh about or you will have anxiety wondering if you will survive. Somehow they turn a two lane road into 4 or 5 lanes. Sometimes go the wrong way on the road and if all else fails, they use the sidewalk. We even saw a bus simply parked on the sidewalk. No big deal, huh? One of my favorite pictures that Bill took to describe the organized chaos is a mess of electrical lines streaming from everywhere and then jumbled all together in some kind of crazy configuration.
Today we have a meeting with other adoption families and are going to hang out with our kids. This is our last night as a family of 4. Then tomorrow we will fly to Fuzhou to get Nina-Li.
Love to you all.
Michelle
They've arrived!!!
Hello, everyone! Michelle is having trouble accessing the blogger website from China, but the family has arrived safe and sound. For now, I will be updating the website for them, as I am able. Michelle will email me photos and updates, and I will post them here as soon as I get them, so everyone at home can stay up to date on their journey!!
Stay tuned...
~Dani
Stay tuned...
~Dani
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